That_Girl_74's Datingish

A possibility has arisen!

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 02:44:32 GMT

So, I've been working as a student assistant at my university this semester, and I work with a teacher and her students, but I get to interact with the students. This past week a student in the class who is older than me by three years asked me out to lunch. We'd been kind of flirting for the whole semester and I was hoping he'd ask me out before the end of it, but thought he wouldn't since I worked in the class. Lunch was nice and we seem to have a lot in common with mannerisms and how we think about things.

He's been contacting me and asking me to hang out a lot, which is really nice. He seems to genuinely like me, and this just feels right - more right than other boys have. I feel kind of bad, though, because I made plans to hang out with a guy Friday night, even though this new guy really wants to hang out with me that night. I'm not going to change the plans for him, even though I know Friday-night guy isn't going to turn into anything. I don't even know that he'll actually show, though he seems to be serious about showing up.

It's like everyone says - as soon as you stop looking opportunities start popping up or they start coming to you! I really hope this works out, but I say that in every post =P I'll keep you updated.

Blogging again

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:59:39 GMT

I can't believe I haven't logged on here since May. Let us try to chronicle a few things that have gone down with my dating life. It will be short, I promise.

I didn't see anyone after B over the summer. We continued hanging out and I continued hoping he secretly did like me and that it would turn into something. The summer ended with a convention where the truth really hit pretty hard that he wouldn't ever be with me. It was a crazy circle. I liked B, who liked H, who liked A, who liked M. So dumb.

I don't really think I've talked to anyone in that way since then. I've been putting myself out there but not all crazy-like. I'll leave my number or accept a date. It hasn't led to anything.

I want to try writing in here more often because I think blogging is good for me. I need a place to write that no one else knows who I am, no one I know in real life reads it or will judge me. This way I can be insecure, etc, without someone telling me to quit being silly.

Hope those of you that are still subscribed don't mind.

Nope, no beginning.

Sat, 30 May 2009 21:12:54 GMT

I was tired of waiting. After he hadn't been touching me anymore like the first couple days, I felt something was changing. I just asked him if something had changed, and he said he thinks it'd just be easier if we were friends. He's probably right, considering we're in an organization together, but it still sucks.

Oh well, onward with life.

Maybe it's a beginning?

Wed, 27 May 2009 03:20:44 GMT

So, I spent an evening with B last night. I drove out to his place and we went to see the new Terminator movie, which was fun. Afterward he told me this story about a house that used to be in the neighborhood that had a pretty rich history, and showed me the site. Then we went to Whataburger and ate back at his place while watching Reno 911. It was a fun evening.

I've always been under the impression that if a guy pays for the movie and the food before or after, it's considered a date. During the whole time, he never tried to cuddle or put his arm around me or fool around, but it was totally fine. It didn't feel awkward or wrong not to touch, so that's pretty great.

It also wasn't like he didn't want to touch me or anything... it was just normal. Just relaxing. As soon as we fell into bed his arm was around me, and it was just comfortable..

He chatted with me today about a few things, and suggested we'd see each other again soon, so I'm pretty content with how things are going thus far.

Weekend

Mon, 25 May 2009 21:05:51 GMT

My weekend was pretty fun. Still, as soon as it was over and everyone went home, I felt so alone. B, the guy I am kinda liking, was talking to me all last night, but today I texted him to see what he was doing and he said "sleeping", then never wrote back. That's fine.

I'm having a problem remembering to take my pills for depression, which I need to be taking every day. I wish there were a pill I could take once a week for this... This is why I switched from the birth control pill to the NuvaRing. Now I don't have to worry about forgetting that... But even worse, I was thinking that I could go without it, or start taking a lower dose... But every day that I forget to take it, I end up wanting to cry and feel awful and alone.

All I wanted last night was someone's arms around me, even though that wouldn't solve everything in the world. It would've solved a few things for the time being.

A little reflecting...

Fri, 22 May 2009 02:02:25 GMT

I always tend to sit alone at night and wonder why I'm sitting alone at night. I want a guy ... Ha, I've already made this blog before... about what I want in a guy.

I texted B earlier this week to see if he wanted to hang out, but he said he was visiting home. He seemed genuinely sorry that he couldn't hang out the next day, which makes me a little hopeful. We'll see.

I'm happy to have plans for this weekend... Tomorrow during the day I may do a few walk-bys to apply for some jobs, then I'll work on my painting. Tomorrow evening I should be hanging out with my step-sister, then driving out to the river to spend the night. The next morning I have plans to float.. and I guess hang out for most of the day.

I've been having the hardest time finding a job lately, which really stinks. It's not that I actually need a job, but my step-dad requires it... That's fine, I understand it will look well on the resume. However, it's really hard to find a job from 3.5 to 4 hours away. Now that I'm here, I've been going out and applying almost every day.

However, this isn't a job website, and I have nothing new from the dating world to report, so I'll stop here.

If you'd like, though, you can view my last entry, where I posed a question that I'm really interested in hearing some input about. Thanks!

Yet again, haven't updated recently

Tue, 19 May 2009 00:25:11 GMT

So it's been since February 17th.

I talked about C - he and I dated for almost three months, then he decided that he didn't want to be with me. He thought I was too type A for his type B personality, but of course he gave me some kind of BS about not having "fixed" himself after his relationship ending last November.

I started talking to a guy, B, who lives near my mom. I just moved back from school, so we'll see how it goes. He came out to visit the first night I was near here, which was nice of him, considering he'd never met my family and it was just me and my family. He stayed until about 12:30 or so. We had a fun time. I was concerned that he was too interested in sex rather than a relationship... We talked about it and I found that we're on the same page - both of us want us to have more investment in each other before we do any kind of sex (oral, etc). However, messing around by touching seems to be okay.

I'm having a bit of a conflict within myself - is it okay to touch and play without sex and not feel like I'm being slutty, if he feels the same way? What is your view on this, if you're a guy?

Haven't Updated in a While

Tue, 17 Feb 2009 04:34:06 GMT

My dating world has been pretty slow up until recently...

In response to my last entry "Dragon Backpack", I am no longer talking to A. I think I was a bit of a time-filler, and he's now back with his ex. I'm not disappointed or upset over it though, because they're nice together, and I never put too much stock into us becoming anything.

The most promising guy right now is C. I met him while running errands, he helped me with getting some of the stuff I needed at a store (he was working there). He seemed like a nice guy, so I gave him my number. He called me a few days later to ask me on a date. He lives about forty-five minutes south from me, but for this date he drove up to me and took me out. We first went to eat at Olive Garden, but had a few hours to kill before the movie we wanted to see started. So, we went to Petco, where I played with a ferret. This ferret was SO cute, and I proclaimed that if he were mine, his name would be Nibbles. After that we went to the movies and then the night ended.

We were able to see each other again this past Saturday, and he'd been telling me throughout the week that he had bought me a little surprise. I was excited but kind of nervous - what could he have gotten me after our first date?? So when I got there I found out he had gone online and bought me a little stuffed animal ferret and named it Nibbles. He said he did it since he knew I couldn't have a real ferret in the dorms.

He's a very sweet guy, and though I still have small reservations, I think this might work out. However, I don't have my hopes up.

The one guy who I actually thought was going to be promising, M, actually stopped talking to me! (He's who I talked about on Nov. 15 & 16) He took me out at the beginning of this semester to a friend's party, and we got along great and he even kissed me at the end of the night... but he never called again. I know we've stopped talking before, but he's never done it where he wouldn't answer any messages... I guess another one has decided I'm not good enough for courtesy, yet again. Oh well, another one bites the dust.

Dragon Backpack

Mon, 08 Dec 2008 06:09:50 GMT

Talking with A is still going on, but we are still not "dating" or anything. I asked him what was between "us", because he invited me to hang out one day and we picked up some sandwiches and went to a park. He had brought a blanket and drinks and cookies to make a picnic out of it. It was really cute. So I wanted to know what "we" were, so I asked. I told him I knew he'd just gotten out of a relationship and he agreed, but he said he's still interested in me. I'm not putting too much stock into this ever becoming anything, but he's really nice to cuddle with.

I don't have much else to update on in the dating world.... =/

Update to the Small Update

Sun, 16 Nov 2008 07:10:29 GMT

Tonight was a date with M. He was really nice, as he was before. I am still being wary, though. I'm not actively looking for a relationship, but if something happens, that's nice.

More about A. We walked after class a few times, he asked for my number, we hung out that weekend, and he wants to hang out again. We still walk after class, he seems very nice. My only concern is that he just got out of a long relationship a couple of weeks ago, so I'm definitely not expecting anything from this one. He's still very nice and cute.

Ya know... not too much to talk about...